Loss

I’ve lost loved ones and one thing I realised is that you’ll grieve alone. There’s no more people, no more crowds gathering around you, no more phone calls, no nothing. I guess what some people fail to realise is that, death really hits you the hardest once that person is buried.

Since a person dies till burial date, you go through the motions and all because you’re surrounded by people. They became a distraction so as much as reality has hit, it hasn’t sank deep into your bones just yet. They’ll be there for you, giving you words of encouragement and motivation in that you’ll not feel alone in any single moment.

Once a person is buried and people leave, that’s when the gravity of the situation hits you hard. You might try to reach out but you realise every is busy, everyone went back to their daily lives and you’re all alone. That’s when the grieving starts, the rollercoaster of emotions, the pain, despair, sadness and everything. It can get so overwhelming especially if no one reaches to you for support, to check in on you or you have no one to go through that with.

Life goes on and you realise you’re no longer a priority and people have so much going on in their lives and you have to go through it alone. Grieve in the best way you can and maybe, just maybe, the grief won’t take over your life. You won’t wallow for so long that you’ll neglect everything around you.

Have that one person who you can always reach out to, who you can rely on to help you through this rough times. You don’t have to be alone, nor do you have to go through this alone.